I don't think there's anything I *can't* do.
Despite the fact that STEPHANIE didn't ask me to dye her hair, she knew I was going to do it. I guess Eric told her after HE asked me. Now...why would you go buy the dye for her and just ASSUME I would help her do it?? Obviously, he *expected* me to help her. Didn't ask if I would BEFORE he took her to go buy it. Guess I'm supposed to be thankful he asked at all.
Why doesn't he get that she doesn't need every single thing she wants the instant she wants it?
Oh well, it's done, and I'm an awesome person for dying her hair. I'm just an awesome person for continuing to live with the aggravation without goin' freakin' insane.
I'm just an awesome person.
I gave up my week of vacation time in March so my employee could go on vacation and take her son who has spring break the same week my kids do. It's been nothing but a headache since I told her she could have the time off. First she wanted to leave early on a Sat morning and return late on a Sat. Mind you, we just lost a part-time employee that worked every Saturday. SO yeah, why don't you just take two Saturdays off in a row, the rest of us will all work instead. Then it was a debate on whether or not any flight could leave in the afternoon. She INSISTED they ONLY leave in the early, early morning. I told her to get another travel agent because that's just not true. Then she finally conceded to the fact that there was (of course) a flight at 3pm they could take. Then last night, at 9:30pm, she texts me saying she can get a package from Tues to the following Wed and will that work?? Umm...doofus, I'm at HOME. I do not have access to the work calendar and have NO idea if anyone has time off. I'll have to check Monday. "But...OMG! They'll only hold the reservation until Sunday--what should I do?!?!" ... Me: "Book it and buy cancellation insurance, or wait until Monday when I can check" Her reply, "I never buy cancellation insurance, it's so expensive!" Ummm you're taking a $4-5k vacation, you can't afford a couple hundred more bucks??? I mean seriously...take a shorter time ON vacation (4-5 days instead of 7-8 maybe?) if you're that hard up for cash. Bottom line, she's ridiculous and selfish and just wants what she wants without any hassle.
I was born in the wrong era I think...how come I can't get what *I* want when I want it all the time and *I'm* always the one bending??
Good news though, no one else has vacation so she'll be happy again on Monday...
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
Add a new job title...
Apparently, now I get to learn to be a hairdresser tomorrow. Stephanie just HAD to get hair dye at Walgreens...tonight. Mind you her hair is still QUITE red from the last dye job. Of course, Eric couldn't possibly tell her, no. Or even, not tonight. In fact, he told her he didn't think he'd take her tonight, but then did anyway! >.<
So, while he's out at some motorcycle race thing tomorrow, I'll be stuck at home dying her hair, which I've never done before in my LIFE. I sure hope it doesn't turn neon green... *sigh*
FML...
While I'm the subject of feeling sorry for myself, Eric's still just spending spending spending and can't be STILL and do nothing for even one weekend. Tomorrow he's going to some motorcycle thing at some arena. Next weekend another ghosthunt. Maybe it's post holiday blues, maybe it's just par for the course, but it sure does feel like late Jan to early Mar suck for me historically speaking.
On the brighter side, I had to give two employees two very not-so-good evaluations and they are both leaving the branch for other opportunities within the Credit Union. The evals went WAY better than anticipated, which I'm very thankful for. Now I'm on to the next one... one more to go this month, hope it will go just as well...
So, while he's out at some motorcycle race thing tomorrow, I'll be stuck at home dying her hair, which I've never done before in my LIFE. I sure hope it doesn't turn neon green... *sigh*
FML...
While I'm the subject of feeling sorry for myself, Eric's still just spending spending spending and can't be STILL and do nothing for even one weekend. Tomorrow he's going to some motorcycle thing at some arena. Next weekend another ghosthunt. Maybe it's post holiday blues, maybe it's just par for the course, but it sure does feel like late Jan to early Mar suck for me historically speaking.
On the brighter side, I had to give two employees two very not-so-good evaluations and they are both leaving the branch for other opportunities within the Credit Union. The evals went WAY better than anticipated, which I'm very thankful for. Now I'm on to the next one... one more to go this month, hope it will go just as well...
Sunday, January 9, 2011
New Year, new me!
Well I started the year off by declaring I wasn't going to take any crap from the folks that are SUPPOSED to love and respect me.
I'm trying to stick to it, but it's just not...me....to be demanding, selfish, and not worrying/caring about anyone else.
I've decided I really can't let things get to me like they have in the past. Especially not Stephanie. I love her like my own daughter, but she drives me to the brink of insanity. And honestly, it's not so much her, as it is the interaction with her and Eric. He gives in to her every whim and it's just frustrating when he should be a parent to her, teaching her right and wrong. Coming down hard on her as he does on my kids. So ... to that end, I won't put up with it anymore. I'm staying out of her discipline, yet not allowing her to rule this house anymore either. It's the only way I'll stay sane. Eric and I got into it, I lost it, and I think now he understands where my breaking point is.
Still working on finances, and hope to have more paid off soon. Can't wait for the W2s so that I can get the taxes done, return in hand, and payoff more crap. I told him (YET AGAIN) that he cannot "buy now, pay later" any more.
Eric's mom is coming in February for a visit and to go to the monster truck show. We had a pretty great visit with her just before Christmas. We cleaned up her kitchen and Eric installed her ceiling fan and a new light fixture on the other side of the kitchen. She was quite pleased with it all I think judging by the emotional outpouring as we headed out on Christmas Eve to come back home.
Same day Eric and I got into my catharsis, my brother told us all he's getting a divorce. 10 years and his daughter's almost 6. Sad, but necessary. That marriage was over 4 years ago at a minimum, but it's still sad, and I am just praying that it'll be a smooth transition for everyone. They're both already "seeing" other people, and it seems quite amicable at the moment...hope it stays that way. My brother will be going along to the monster truck show with his daughter, his new girlfriend, and HER twin daughters. I'm giving up my ticket so she can go with her kids, with him. (what a sacrifice--not!) I was going to go just to spend time with Eric, Steph and his Mom, but I have ZERO desire to be there. I'll go get a pedicure that day instead! :)
Work continues to be a daily struggle for me just to WANT to be there. And I'm supposed to be the driving, motivating factor for the employees. It'll be 19 years that I've been with the Credit Union on March 9th. One more year, and I'll get another week of vacation. I feel like I should do something different with my life, but I have no clue what that would or even could be. I just feel trapped in so many ways in my life and that makes me sad. I should be happy. Happy to have a job, a family, a home, just...happy.
That bein' said, I'm not going to wallow in self-pity, or complain. This year is proving to be a challenge already, but one I'm ready for. The Chamber obligations are gone, time to focus on family and work. (Yes, in that order)
I did receive a HUGE blessing at work on Friday. One of my employees, who was WAY under-achieving in production goals, always coming in late, and just acting as though she didn't care--just going through the motions--was given an opportunity in another department. Her performance was to the point that I was literally going to have to fire her soon. The process of documenting her performance and putting her on an action plan was set to take place, and she got this other job. Now, I'll just note her performance deficiencies and tardiness in her evaluation and she'll move on. She has no idea how lucky she is to have gotten this job. No idea. I like her as a person, so it would have been particularly difficult to do, but guess that's what they pay me the big bucks for, huh??
I'm going to try and update this more regularly so that I can stay focused on positive things and get anything else "off my chest" before it becomes burdensome. Thank you dear blog for giving me this outlet...
I'm trying to stick to it, but it's just not...me....to be demanding, selfish, and not worrying/caring about anyone else.
I've decided I really can't let things get to me like they have in the past. Especially not Stephanie. I love her like my own daughter, but she drives me to the brink of insanity. And honestly, it's not so much her, as it is the interaction with her and Eric. He gives in to her every whim and it's just frustrating when he should be a parent to her, teaching her right and wrong. Coming down hard on her as he does on my kids. So ... to that end, I won't put up with it anymore. I'm staying out of her discipline, yet not allowing her to rule this house anymore either. It's the only way I'll stay sane. Eric and I got into it, I lost it, and I think now he understands where my breaking point is.
Still working on finances, and hope to have more paid off soon. Can't wait for the W2s so that I can get the taxes done, return in hand, and payoff more crap. I told him (YET AGAIN) that he cannot "buy now, pay later" any more.
Eric's mom is coming in February for a visit and to go to the monster truck show. We had a pretty great visit with her just before Christmas. We cleaned up her kitchen and Eric installed her ceiling fan and a new light fixture on the other side of the kitchen. She was quite pleased with it all I think judging by the emotional outpouring as we headed out on Christmas Eve to come back home.
Same day Eric and I got into my catharsis, my brother told us all he's getting a divorce. 10 years and his daughter's almost 6. Sad, but necessary. That marriage was over 4 years ago at a minimum, but it's still sad, and I am just praying that it'll be a smooth transition for everyone. They're both already "seeing" other people, and it seems quite amicable at the moment...hope it stays that way. My brother will be going along to the monster truck show with his daughter, his new girlfriend, and HER twin daughters. I'm giving up my ticket so she can go with her kids, with him. (what a sacrifice--not!) I was going to go just to spend time with Eric, Steph and his Mom, but I have ZERO desire to be there. I'll go get a pedicure that day instead! :)
Work continues to be a daily struggle for me just to WANT to be there. And I'm supposed to be the driving, motivating factor for the employees. It'll be 19 years that I've been with the Credit Union on March 9th. One more year, and I'll get another week of vacation. I feel like I should do something different with my life, but I have no clue what that would or even could be. I just feel trapped in so many ways in my life and that makes me sad. I should be happy. Happy to have a job, a family, a home, just...happy.
That bein' said, I'm not going to wallow in self-pity, or complain. This year is proving to be a challenge already, but one I'm ready for. The Chamber obligations are gone, time to focus on family and work. (Yes, in that order)
I did receive a HUGE blessing at work on Friday. One of my employees, who was WAY under-achieving in production goals, always coming in late, and just acting as though she didn't care--just going through the motions--was given an opportunity in another department. Her performance was to the point that I was literally going to have to fire her soon. The process of documenting her performance and putting her on an action plan was set to take place, and she got this other job. Now, I'll just note her performance deficiencies and tardiness in her evaluation and she'll move on. She has no idea how lucky she is to have gotten this job. No idea. I like her as a person, so it would have been particularly difficult to do, but guess that's what they pay me the big bucks for, huh??
I'm going to try and update this more regularly so that I can stay focused on positive things and get anything else "off my chest" before it becomes burdensome. Thank you dear blog for giving me this outlet...
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